Choosing a Sweetheart Table vs Head Table
Updated: Apr 8
Creating a seating chart can be one of the biggest challenges you face while planning your wedding. Assigning tables and seats, making sure your guest lists has the best possible arrangement, and devising a unique way to ensure your guests find their seats during the reception can be time consuming. One thing that doesn’t have to be time consuming is choosing between sweetheart table vs head table. We’ve compiled a list of pros and cons to help make your choice an easy one.
What's The Difference
Both a sweetheart table and head table options have their upsides and downsides but before diving into the pros and cons of each, lets go over what the differences are. The sweetheart table can be large and ornate or simple and small but only seats the bride and groom. The head table is a much larger arrangement that includes the placement of the bride and groom, their bridal party, and/or their immediate family members. Most venues accommodate for either option and some, like ours, include a special table just for this use. Now that we understand the difference between the two, let’s look at the pros and cons to each.
Having a sweetheart table with just you and your new spouse guarantees you extra alone time on your big day. The whole wedding day can seem to fly by and taking that extra time can help mark out a special moment to cherish as newlyweds. Having time away from your guests can also give you a small break in a typically crowded day. Although a head table may not seem as intimate setting as a sweetheart table, it does offer it’s own pros. Spending your first moments as husband and wife surrounded by some of your most important people can really multiply the love and good vibes. It also gives you a chance to honor those people who have chosen to stand up with you as you commit your love and loyalty to another person.
Electing to go with a sweetheart table can give you and your new spouse some guaranteed alone time, but it can also make your guests feel separated from you. Even the slight distance can create a feeling of isolation for your guests and loved ones who have chosen to celebrate your union with you. Opposite this, having a head table can really deter you from feeling the need to go out and converse with your guests since your wedding party already surrounds you. Having constant interaction with your nearest and dearest can distract you and allow you to feel complacent in your host duties. Being seated at a head table can also make your wedding party feel isolated from their family members and/or dates since most set ups do not allow extra room to accommodate everyone.
Whether you choose to have a sweetheart table or a head table, being able to look at the pros and cons for each can ensure you take the necessary precautions to elevate the upsides, and alleviate the downsides. Being alone at a sweetheart table can make it easier for you to get out of your seat and play host creating your first opportunity, as newlyweds to walk around greeting and making your guests feel welcomed. Having your honored bridesmaids and groomsmen seated with you at a head table can also really show special attention and gratitude for their role in bringing about your special day. Many couples often forget that any friend or sibling that accepts the title of “bridal party member” also accept to honor you, the bride or groom and having that distinction can really go a long way in showing your appreciation. Whichever seating option you choose, you’re sure to have the perfect setting for your special day.